Does your little girl get these things from you?
“A daughter is a bundle of firsts that excite and delight, giggles that come from deep inside and are always contagious, everything wonderful and precious and your love for her knows no bounds.” — Barbara Cage
I feel blessed to be Mummy to my gorgeous little girl. If you, too, have a daughter, you’d know what an absolute joy they are. I love how affectionate my daughter is, how she wears her little heart on her sleeve and how she can have a conversation with just herself.
She cries easily, laughs easily and loves so, so easily. However, sometimes I also feel that having a daughter is a huge responsibility. She is not going to be little for long. She’s going to grow up and probably (but hopefully not) disagree with everything we say.
When it comes to daughters, us mums have an advantage – we know what it’s like to be a young girl. We’ve been in their shoes and we know how to prepare them to face the world.
If you don’t know how to go about this, you can start by reading this list which is essential for all mums with daughters. Keep reading to know the most important things girls need from their mums.
1. She needs to know she is beautiful: Your daughter needs to know she is beautiful without having to look into a mirror or get an opinion from another person. Praise her amazing qualities. Positive affirmations do wonders to build self-esteem!
2. She needs you to be her confidante: Your daughter needs to know that you are always there to hear her out and be on her side. Tell her you’ve got her back no matter what the world throws at her because you knew her first and you know her best!
3. She needs to know you’ve been in her shoes: Bringing up girls will be much easier if they know that you’ve “been there” too. Tell your daughter stories from your past, without sugarcoating it so much. It is OK to tell her that you made mistakes, and it is OK for her to make her own mistakes. But let her know that it is truly admirable if she can learn from her own mistakes and the mistakes of others.
4. She needs to know her self-worth: Tell her that there’s so much more to beauty than what meets the eye. Teach her to see beauty in others as well as herself. Teach her that she needs to know and love who she is before modelling her life after another’s.
5. She needs to know about her body: You are the best person to talk to your daughter about her changing body. Give her plenty of information about how it works, how to take care of it and how to protect it.
6. She needs you to talk to her about sex: Talk to your daughter about sex before anyone else does. You can start early with age-appropriate, open talks about “good touch” and “bad touch.”As she grows, keep the open conversations going and she won’t cringe or roll her eyes when you try and talk to her about sex. Also, let her know that you can answer any question she has on the subject.
7: She needs you to be her mum, not her friend: Talking about everything and having open conversations with your daughter doesn’t mean you must agree with everything she says or does. Remember, you don’t have to always be the ‘good guy’ to guide her in the right direction.
8. She needs you to spend quality time with her: Take time away from your busy schedule to get to know your daughter. Remember that she won’t stay the same forever. She may like princesses one day, butterflies the next… then boys before you know it! So make the effort to go through her various phases and interests with her. You can also use this quality time to let her get to know you better. Show her that Mummy has a fun side and secretly loves sparkly, glittery things as well.
9: She needs you to believe in her dreams: Daughters need their mums to believe in them and their dreams. Your encouragement will mean the world to her. Help her cope with the disappointment of dreams not realised. She needs to know that not every dream is going to come true and we need to be resilient to get over disappointments, and move on.
10: She needs you to let her be a child: Let her enjoy her childhood doing things kids do… playing make-believe, getting messy with paints, running around in the playground and even being silly!
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